Yo, lemme tell y’all somethin’ – hittin’ 40 as a Black woman and dealin’ with the internet? Girl, it’s a whole battlefield out here. If you’re already feelin’ a lil unhinged (and let’s be real, who ain’t?), these trolls and keyboard gangstas will test you. But don’t trip, ‘cause I got the blueprint for how to keep your edges intact while livin’ your best online life.
Step 1: Know Thyself
First off, it’s crucial to be rooted in who you are. These folks online? They love to throw shade and project their own insecurities on you. But guess what? That ain’t your cross to carry, boo. When you know who you are, their lil’ insults can’t shake you. So, if someone calls you out your name or tries to tell you what you should be doing at “40,” just laugh. You’re a grown-ass woman who’s been through some things. You survived bad wigs, questionable exes, and all those times you tried to go keto but ended up at Popeyes. You’ll survive them, too.
Step 2: Clapback or Nah?
Listen, not everyone deserves your energy. You’ve got to pick your battles. Some people troll for sport, hopin’ to get a reaction. Don’t give them the satisfaction. But if you do decide to clap back, make it quick, witty, and savage. Hit ‘em with, “I’m sorry, your insecure spirit isn’t my ministry,” and keep it movin’.
Step 3: Protect Your Peace
Block, mute, and report are your best friends. You don’t owe anyone access to your space, whether it’s physical or digital. Somebody tryna be messy in your comments? Blocked. A random dude with zero profile pics and “AlphaMale69” in his bio comin’ for you? Muted. Ain’t no shame in curating your timeline like it’s a fine wine.
Step 4: Turn Down the Noise
The internet will have you thinkin’ you need to have a six-figure business, a flawless skincare routine, and abs by 6 PM. Sis, no. Don’t let social media rush your timeline. Half these folks be out here cappin’ anyway. Log off, take a walk, binge-watch your favorite trash TV, or journal about how much you don’t care. The “likes” and “shares” will be there when you come back.
Step 5: Find Your Tribe
One thing about the internet? It’ll connect you with your people. Find communities that uplift and support you. Whether it’s a Facebook group for Black women over 40, a TikTok page where aunties share life hacks, or just your day-one besties in a group chat – lean on them. They’ll gas you up when the world’s tryna dim your light.
Step 6: Laugh It Off
Life is too short to let internet strangers stress you. Most of these trolls ain’t showered in three days and are eating cereal outta mugs. Meanwhile, you’re out here thriving. Post your selfie, tweet your thoughts, and laugh all the way to the “block” button if necessary.
Final Thoughts
Being 40, Black, and on the internet is like walking through a storm in a cute outfit: messy but manageable. You’ve got the strength of your ancestors, the wisdom of your experiences, and the audacity to be unapologetically you. So, let the trolls troll. You’re too busy being fabulous and unbothered to care. Stay unhinged, sis. The world can’t handle it, and that’s their problem.